We all face the journey of trying to overcome self-doubt. Sometimes self-doubt comes from within; sometimes it comes from external sources, such as society norms, pressure from peers or conforming to family expectations. Self-doubt is a lack of confidence in oneself and one’s own abilities.
Accepting our unique set of personal qualities and challenges that make our life distinct is the beginning of accepting ourselves for who we are. We are all quality people. God crafted us carefully, with precision and great attention to detail.
Self-acceptance can only come from believing we are whole. Our completeness comes from Christ alone. Nothing else can fill in the gaps that make us feel incomplete. Only the Lord can satisfy. Self-acceptance cannot be contained until we forgive ourselves and those who have hurt us, understand that God has a purpose for our life, know that God makes you strong and realize that others accept us just as we are.
It’s nearly impossible to accept ourselves if we’re holding on to past pains. When others hinder us, we see ourselves as unacceptable. We must forgive these people who have placed this burden upon us. When we’re able to forgive those who have caused the deepest hurt in our lives, we’re better able to forgive ourselves for abiding in the self-doubt that disables self-acceptance.
Often, we are our own worst enemy, pulling our own self-worth down into the dumps. In order to find some resolution in our lives, we must learn to forgive ourselves. God has forgiven us for all our inequities. In fact, He sent His son to take on our sins and bear them at the cross, just so we could find freedom from our sins, allowing us to engage in a deeper relationship with Him. God doesn’t hold on to our sins, and He desires for us to release them to Him as well.
Hold on to your dreams.
At some point in our childhood, many of us find something that we truly love doing. Strangely, many of us stop doing that thing we love. Or, our focus becomes on how well we do that thing rather than just enjoying the process of doing it.
God is the one who gave us those talents, desires and dreams. Often, our future endeavors or career path actually involve the things we love when we’re young. These passions drive God’s purpose for our lives. We must hold on to them and realize that they play a significant role in our lives and help mold us into the person God created us to be. When we accept these aspects of our lives as gifts and revel in their joy, then self-acceptance can become more apparent.
They’re not weaknesses; they’re strengths.
God guides each of us through life. He places us in certain situations and allows specific circumstances to occur for us to grow more in His likeness and discover our greater purpose. While a particular phase may not feel great or is best defined as transitional, it’s all part of the bigger picture. The lessons endured during hardship teach us to be stronger. In our strength, we’re able to accept who we are with greater understanding. For when we are weak, He is strong. When we have to rely on Him, we become less and He becomes more.
We were all chosen for a specific place and time. Celebrate that God selected you specifically. That’s incredible! When we understand how significant it is that the creator of all things appointed us for a particular purpose, we become more secure. In our security, we’re able to register our self-worth and value.
Having love in your life helps you combat fear and self-depreciation.
When we become aware of other people who accept us for who we are, it becomes easier to accept ourselves. We must open our eyes to see what draws other people to our character. If another person enjoys those traits, then we certainly can love them as well. Also, we must explore what we love about those who surround us, because often whom we hang out with is a reflection of our own character.
It can be easy to become caught up in how unlovable we may be, but in reality there are many people who love us dearly: our friends, our teachers, our church community, our family. Even if these relationships aren’t as strong as we’d desire, the Spirit of the Lord brings us into a community of love. So, when we think our family or our friends don’t particularly care for us, the Holy Spirit draws them to us and us to them through His fruitful love. Plus, we can always count on God’s love. No matter what we’ve done or who we may be in a specific moment. God loves us eternally and unconditionally.
Not only do we need to accept ourselves for who we are, we must accept who God made us to be. Our self-doubt will slowly melt away when we’re finally able to achieve self-acceptance.
We’d love to pray for you and support you during your journey toward self-acceptance. Email us, Message Us or #AcceptMeForMe with your story. What has God revealed to you or what do you wish He would make clear in your life.