It’s a bit of a myth to believe that “If I’m just loving enough, then others will find Jesus through me.” Love Incarnate walked this earth and yes, many were drawn to Him. But, even more became disillusioned, or even hostile or just weren’t impressed. Who loves you more? The one who sees you doing wrong and with compassion tells you, “What you’re doing will hurt you badly but Jesus can bring you out of this,” or the one who grins, shrugs his shoulders and says, “Hey, it’s not my place to judge you”? Jesus Christ, not our being “loving” enough, is how people are saved.
In terms of your friend who thinks she might be gay. Real friends are hard to find. You can be a real friend – no, wait – you MUST be a real friend to her. “But what if she gets offended? What if she doesn’t want to be my friend anymore?” That might happen. It’s a risk you’ll have to weigh. But do you want to be a real friend or just someone with whom you can enjoy a few laughs?
At your age there’s a certain percentage of kids who question their sexuality. Most of them, if they can just stay the course sexually, will become confirmed in their heterosexuality. But kids who “experiment” can become locked into same-sex desires. Sex is a very powerful experience. God means it for our good, which is why He is so strict about it. Sexual intercourse is given for a man and a wife in the covenant of marriage. The main reason we have sex isn’t for the pleasure it brings, but to create babies and raise them in a secure family. You’re growing up in a weird culture. This culture believes that you cannot be happy unless you’re active sexually. How silly! Countless millions of people on this planet are not “fulfilled sexually” and yet live very happy and fruitful lives. Of your friends who have had multiple sexual partners, how many would you say are truly happy?
But isn’t love from God? Granted, it’s hard to criticize love. But think through the nature of love. Love seeks the good of the one loved. When love is valued for how it makes ME feel, then that “love” is only romance or infatuation.
So be a real friend. Tell your friend you love her. Show her you love her by your loyalty AND your willingness to encourage her not to become romantically involved with someone of the same sex. And tell her why Jesus is the most important person in your life.