Sometimes it seems impossible to get your crush to notice you. It seems like the answer should be expensive shoes, perfect hair or just the right amount of shiny lip-liner. While those aspects don’t hurt, there is much more that could grab his attention.
Three words: confidence, confidence, CONFIDENCE! That cutie from math class won’t notice you unless you let your real, confident self emerge. We know you’ve heard it before, but it’s crucial at this time of year. You need to know who you are, where you stand in the world and where you want to stand in the world in order to survive.
You’ve changed over the summer and so has everyone else. It’s important to project confidence and understand how you show your confidence in your everyday life. Only you know everything about you, so it can only be you who determines how you interact with the world. Understand what you stand for, why you wake up in the morning and know how you want to be seen when someone hears or speaks your name. Finding confidence is about accepting every part of who God is creating you to be and presenting those qualities in an honest manner. That means being comfortable with all your trips and falls, quirks and slip-ups, along with your successes and triumphs.
Do you want boys to know you as the girl with all the gossip, or the girl with all the coolest clothes, how about the one who picks her nose in class when she thinks nobody is watching? Maybe that is what you want. But there is a more profound level. With enough time and money, anyone can be the gossip with expensive clothes. However, a girl who shows love and compassion to others reaches a deeper level. What about being someone who always offers a helping hand? Or a girl who challenges herself with every experience, bad or good, that comes her way? These are traits that go beyond the plastic surface. These are traits that everyone can respect and admire. Sure, guys like well-dressed girls who don’t pick their noses, but they fall hard for a girl who is her own person and exudes confidence and joy in every facet of her life.
Gaining confidence can be a long process; so don’t expect to find it next week under a pile of dirty laundry and discarded copies of Teen Vogue. Find those activities and people that make you feel good about yourself. Make it a goal to learn about yourself and discover the potential you possess. Be as enthusiastic as possible toward your newfound passions. Finding joy in your abilities builds your self-confidence because it allows you to understand and be open to becoming the woman you desire to be.
Now that you understand yourself, take a look at where you stand. Meaning: think about how other people see you. You might think you are exhibiting a certain version of yourself that isn’t coming across to other people. Or maybe you act in such a way that people can’t help but take notice of your confidence and sensitivity. Ask your friends, your family, and if you really want to know, ask your teachers or coaches (but you usually don’t have to go that far). If who you are and who you want to be complement each other, then congratulations. Go after that cutie and show him the real you and what is REALLY important in your life. If he recognizes the appeal and desirability that you can’t help but show off, then you’ve found yourself a potential match. If he fails to recognize the allure of your confident and strong self, then take a look at where you want to be and keep your heart and eyes focused on those characteristics and show the rest of the world the new and improved you.
Now that everybody is back from summer break, it’s an excellent opportunity to allow people to get to know you for yourself. You can be confident and find that special someone to make the summer heat last well into winter break or beyond. The most attractive qualities about you are available for you to find and show to the world. Tap into your newly acquired confidence and let that determine how people view you. Once you start to recognize and radiate the qualities that make you unique, that cutie in class will be noticing you big time. And even if he doesn’t, you won’t really care. You’ll have plenty of other opportunities with the kind of guys who can’t get enough of a strong, confident, young woman like yourself.