Gift giving is not an easy task and it only becomes more difficult when you’re shopping for your significant other. This can be especially difficult if you’ve just started the relationship. The key to gift giving in a relationship is to understand what type of relationship you’re in. Is it a new fling? Maybe you have been together for a few months or even a year or more. Either way, there are simple tips of advice to follow when searching for the perfect gift, no matter what the occasion.
For a Relationship That Has Just Started
So you have been in a relationship for less than a month and his birthday is coming up – what do you do? You want to be able to find a gift that shows that you’re enjoying the relationship so far, but nothing too serious, because that could send a wrong message that wouldn’t be appropriate. Take him out to dinner at his favorite restaurant or go to a movie that he’s wanted to see. Remember, it’s not necessary to spend a lot of money in the beginning of a relationship. You don’t want to drop a lot of cash into someone that you’re just starting to know.
For a Relationship That’s a Bit More Serious
Alright, you’ve been together for a few months. Christmas is approaching, and you’re at a loss as to what to buy your boyfriend. This is a stage in the relationship where it would be appropriate to give something small, simple and thoughtful. Use his favorite hobby as a focus point for the gift. Maybe he collects vinyl records, and you can go to Barnes and Noble to pick up a record from his favorite band for around $30. If he loves to read, find out who his favorite author is and buy him a new book to read. If he’s into sports, think about a new piece of equipment like a ball or bat. It’s easier to find a gift at this point in the relationship because you’ve become closer and you’re more comfortable with each other. When you’re in a more series relationship, you’ll already know what your significant other likes and dislikes, making gift giving less of a guessing game.
For a Long Term Relationship
At this point in the relationship things are going well and you two are definitely comfortable with one another. Whatever the occasion, make the gift a little more involved. Combine dinner and a movie with a small gift as well. The gift should be something that shows you’re invested in the relationship and pay attention to your significant other’s wants. If you two are out shopping and he points out that he really likes a T-shirt, make a quiet note of it and return later to purchase the shirt. If his favorite band is coming to town, buy tickets to the concert and make a date night out of the event.
When is it Appropriate to Spend a lot of Money?
When do you drop a lot of money for a big gift? Well, that depends on the seriousness of the relationship. If you don’t feel comfortable giving something expensive, then chances are, it’s not the right time.
It’s important to know that even though a relationship is long term, it doesn’t always mean you’re in a serious relationship. Even if you’ve been together for a year, that doesn’t mean you’re thinking about the next serious steps in a relationship – going to college together, taking a road trip together or marriage. Serious relationships are not defined based on the length of your relationship, but rather the level at which you two know each other. In a serious relationship, gift giving is based on an amount the two of you agree with based on your budget, aspirations and future plans.
If you’re invested in the relationship, let the gift you give be a reflection of your compassion. This will make the stressful process of gift giving more enjoyable. Pay attention to where you are in the relationship and ask yourself, “Is it appropriate to buy this when we’ve only been dating for this long?” Note your partner’s hobbies and interests. And, when you’re trying to find the perfect gift, remember that not all gifts are tangible items. Sometimes a gift is just as valuable as spending time with someone because creating memories can mean more than material items.