Why not to mess with a princess
Let’s face it: If you’re a girl older than 6, it’s pretty safe to say that you want to be liked – even loved – by the guy you find attractive. But sometimes it doesn’t happen that way. Sometimes he doesn’t notice you, or worse yet, doesn’t like what he notices. So you start to think about how you could make him change his mind. And that’s where you enter the danger zone.
At first, it might seem like no big deal to compromise here and there on things you like to do or the way you look in order to attract a boy. But in reality, with each change you make, you’re breaking apart something perfect. You might not feel perfect in your own eyes, but God doesn’t make mistakes. Every single part of you is meant to be used for God’s glory and purpose. The Bible says that you are “wonderfully made” (Psalm 139:14) and that God “has made everything beautiful in its own time” (Eccles 3:11) – and “everything” includes you! He made you exactly the way that you’re supposed to be. Yes, even the freckle you hate on your nose, or the fact that you can’t dance or whatever it is that bugs you about yourself, was made for something greater than you can imagine.
Just because you have a crush on a guy, it doesn’t mean that he’s someone you should be with, especially if he’s not feeling the same way. If he doesn’t feel like you’re his type, trying to change who you are isn’t going to bring you closer to him. Sometimes God brings people into our lives to show us what kind of person He has planned for us in the future. This doesn’t mean that we should date every guy that comes along, but instead means that we should be particular on the characteristics we do and do not find attractive about various individuals. By observing and seeing how you’re treated and how you feel around a particular person you’ll learn where God is taking you.
It’s really important to know that if you’re ever in a situation where someone is asking you to compromise physically or risk your morals, you should say goodbye immediately. Don’t ever feel that you have to do something that makes you uncomfortable or that you think is wrong. You’re worth so much more than that.
Of course, there are not-so-great habits and things that you want to improve about yourself. But that’s different than changing who you are for someone else. Let God be the one who shapes and forms you. He knows His perfect plans for your life and exactly how to make them happen.
So what should you do? Learn to trust God and His plan for your life. He loves you more than anyone else ever could and wants only the best for you. (Not too shabby of a companion, huh?) As much as you can and as often as you can, focus on your relationship with Him and listen to what He’s telling you. He has good stuff for you to hear! And before you know it, God’s plans will unfold right in front of you.
Every single part of you is meant to be used for God’s glory and purpose.
As an added bonus, one of the most attractive things about a girl is her confidence. It’s good to be you—and happy about it! So, when that special guy comes around that God does have planned for you, he’ll love to see everything about you — freckles, corny dance moves and all — and he’ll know that God made you especially for him.