There’s a story that captures our hearts, you know the one:
boy meets girl,
boy and girl fall in love though they experience many ups and downs,
boy proposes to girl in the most romantic way,
boy and girl marry and live happily ever after.
This story is a personal desire for many. However, we’ve been told that girls can pursue boys. We’ve been told that girls have to look sexy or act a certain way to attract boys’ attention. We’ve been told that boys are only interested in sex and in order to have someone fall in love with us, we have to give them what they want. In the midst of the forward “hook-up” culture presented in today’s media, our hearts really long for this love story and there’s a film that reminds us of our deepest yearning.
Old Fashioned follows the boy meets girl, boy and girl fall in love chronicle that we all hope to pursue. Clay Walsh, a frat boy player, who spent many nights drinking and hooking up with girls, turns his back on this lifestyle. He finds himself running a low key antique shop in a small Midwestern college town. With deep, mythological ideas of love and romance, Clay abandons the dead-end pattern of dating.
When Amber Hewson, a high-spirited woman, full of life and vigor, moves into the apartment above Clay’s shop, the two find themselves intertwined in a love story unlike anything either of them has known. Amber is intrigued by Clay’s noble morals. Clay is drawn to Amber’s spontaneity and fervor for life. But, both have a past that they fear will hurt the other and the blooming relationship they share.
Clay’s hopeful perspectives on romance and love shed light on past pains and deep wounds that Amber must overcome. Clay must decide if he really believes in his new ideologies and whether or not they’re worth holding onto in the midst of strong desires for his brewing love. Together, they agree to step forward in an old fashioned courtship that builds strength and honor between the two.
Though jaded and hurt, Amber and Clay decide to go against current dating expectations and instead build a strong foundation for their future together. Taking a risk, they find it possible to build true love that lasts.
This is what God envisioned for us in romantic love, to find deep companionship with another person. When you begin to analyze the way God intended romantic love, it’s easy to realize that God Himself is a romantic, and He wants to fulfill the deepest desires of our hearts. He wants good and beautiful things in our lives, such as deep, intimate love. We’re not created for superficial relationships or fantasy driven ecstasy. God has placed it on our hearts to want so much more, and He will give it to us if we trust and believe Him rather than follow the seduction of media and the world.
Most of what the world throws at us in regards to sex and romance is hardly fringe or edgy anymore. We’ve become numb to the soft porn principles of lust and romance, so a film daring enough to proclaim the teaching of “no sex before marriage” is actually pretty innovative in today’s society.
Though the title Old Fashioned praises traditional courtship, it presents the trend in a new, invigorating light. The movie declares that old fashioned love isn’t about “gentlemanly manners” such as holding the door open or pulling a chair out for your date. It certainly includes, but isn’t limited to, taking it slow and waiting for marriage to have sex. As the movie demonstrates, old fashioned romance is about sincerely knowing one another. By digging into the facets of one another’s character, life, goals, dreams, etc., romance becomes more exciting, enticing and desirable than sex after the first date. What’s the pleasure in quick gratification? Empty sex becomes boring, but delving into the nature of one another opens up a world of discovery. Old Fashion is a film that offers a view of what dating looks like when the first goal is respect for your partner. The key to old fashioned love is that it creates a devotion that will last a lifetime. Let’s celebrate love, not plan on dissolution. Deep down, we all want to celebrate.