There’s no Perfect Person
Most women want a Josh Hutcherson: attractive, thoughtful, witty and endearing. Plus, if our lives leading up to the big “Will you go out with me?” were anything similar to his moment with Katniss, we’d possibly combust with happiness. The idea of a guy that looks like Josh Hutcherson treating us as though we are the most important person to him, despite any of our shortcomings, is captivating. We want our crush’ to cherish us for who we are, but sometimes we forget to do that for them.
There’s nothing wrong with having expectations on how we want to be treated by a potential new boyfriend; nor is it bad to have preset expectations on physical or mental aspects for a guy. However, we have to put our reality in the forefront, and keep in mind that some things we want in a guy are completely impractical. If our crush is brunette, average height and build plus smart, we can’t expect him to dye his hair blonde, achieve washboard abs, grow 5 inches and suddenly become Einstein. It completely disrespects his worth and the work God put in to create him. We would never want a guy to claim that he likes us and then try to change us, so we shouldn’t do that to him either.
Moreover, we may realize that the expectations we had pre-laid out may, in reality, not be what we actually want or need. Falling for the guy who doesn’t match up with our typical prospects has happened to many women and it’s happened for a reason. God created the man who is destined to be with us for the rest of our lives. By asking for His guidance God will aid us in recognizing who that man is.
On top of that, by asking God for his guidance, he will tell us if it’s the right time for us to date. The cliché saying of meeting someone at the wrong time holds true for many women. Put your faith in God and he will place the man you’re supposed to be with at the right place at the right time. He knows who we should date and who we should avoid. He wouldn’t destine you to be with someone who had intentions of diverting you from your path. Don’t be afraid to pray to God and ask Him what you want in man, because sometimes we truly don’t know, but He will.
When we like a guy that doesn’t necessarily meet our usual expectations, we should make a list of all the qualities he possesses that makes him desirable. We may be surprised that the ideals we originally thought were important aren’t actually imperative. The type of men Josh Hutcherson plays are in movies for a reason. To compare a real guy’s quality off of a fictional character is immature and leaves us in a fantasy world limbo. We are fed, on a regular basis, modified versions of what’s actually real. As a result, this can cloud our judgement and expectations that we have in others. It’s important to sort out what’s reality and what’s just television propaganda, because without doing so we hinder our potential future relationships. Characters in a movie do not represent one real person because there’s no individual in existence that’s exactly like that character. It defies who we are: human. We can only be with another human being and as humans we are imperfect sinners who are growing to become the person God wanted us to be.
It’s easy to overlook the fact that there is no perfect guy out there. The only perfect man in our world is Jesus. God took the time to create the men we encounter in our life—they are who they are for a reason. By looking at guys in our lives through the lens of God, we see them for who they are and not what we believe they should be. We should appreciate what our crushes’ can already provide for us and cherish who they are, despite any shortcomings, because we’d want them to do the same for us. By looking at their worth via God, our relationship will be more fruitful and internally rewarding.