You actually made it through the school year—passed your classes, managed to get by with only three major arguments with your friends and you definitely didn’t compromise your identity for anyone. So, you decide to spend your first day of summer out on the beach or at the pool, where you can continue the emergence of your newfound selfhood. Then all of a sudden it hits you. Every girl from school is wearing your swimsuit, or at least a similar version. How are you going to stand out in a crowd of bathing beauties?
Although it seems the probable answer is a new swimsuit, there are actually stronger ways to stand out amongst a gaggle of girls. The first answer is confidence. Although you might have just rolled your eyes because you were expecting to hear about the perfect suit, listen closer. Everyone around you is in a swimsuit. Correct? So you need to find your inner strengths in order to really shine. Think about your entrance to the pool or beach. Are you the girl looking for a spot to hide away from your peers, or are you the girl smiling and acknowledging people you know? In order to look confident, you need to BE confident.
The first step to gaining confidence is to change your perspective. Usually, the hardest part of going to summer hangouts is that initial moment when you realize you have to reveal your swimsuit. To defeat this fear, think of when you’re at the pool and a bunch of girls from your class walk in. Are you staring them down, and judging every part of their body? Most likely, you’re not. Instead, you’re probably chatting with your friends and genuinely paying attention to the people around you. So show that bikini with pride, and don’t feel that everyone is there to judge you.
Now armed with an understanding that not everyone is judging you and if they are, they aren’t worth your time, develop the attitude that will compliment your confidence! In order to stand out among all the other girls at the pool, think of your best quality and run with it! Maybe you’re the class clown, the mysterious wallflower, the edgy punk star or even the social butterfly. Whatever your personality, work with your strongest trait and people will catch on and notice. For example, if humor is your strength, crack some jokes with your friends and tell them the ridiculous family dog story that happened last night. People will quickly become aware of your group keeled over in laughter, and they’ll want to come hear your story too. On the other hand, lets say you’re a naturally shy person, and not the type of girl who draws attention to herself. Although you’re beginning to established confidence, you aren’t ready be the queen bee of the pool. How should you work your magic? Bring your favorite hobby and do it with your friends. Or, pack the latest magazine or book you’re reading and talk to your friends about what you’re learning. Believe it or not you’ll still be noticed, because you’re the girl who came with the fun activity to the pool.
Finally, since you’re probably looking for a little tidbit on how swimsuits can affect your personality, here it is. Never go to the pool in a swimsuit that makes you feel uncomfortable. Being self-conscience causes you to be withdrawn and nervous, definitely an added pressure in social situations! So grab the suit that makes you want to stand tall and people will notice the bathing beauty that you truly are.