Does it Even Matter?
You may be like many girls who like to keep up with fashion trends. You may not. For some, fashion is everything. For others, fashion is pointless. But is it? Is there a correlation between dressing trendy and feeling confident? More importantly, does wearing current trends honor God and who He wants you to be?
The Industry of Fashion
The fashion industry introduces new trends each season and every year you line up to purchase the latest fad. Why are you so obsessed with trends and fashion? Appearance isn’t everything after all. But, fashion is a huge industry that makes money off of your insecurities. The industry tells you that you need to look and dress a certain way to be successful or worth anything. So, you spend your money on the latest trends in fashion and beauty, desperately trying to fit a shallow mode. The celebrity and high fashion culture push this idea of following the latest trends no matter the cost.
Images of the same beauty standard constantly being pushed on you can really damage your self-esteem. Being fed images of Jennifer Lawrence in skin tight dresses intimidates you and other girls, leading you to feel inadequate for not looking like her. Little do you know, Hollywood images are carefully executed. Stylists put Jennifer in a dress that suits her body type and she has a personal trainer who helps her work out everyday of the week (this doesn’t even begin to examine how images are altered or touched-up before being published). You know that you can’t afford the dress Jennifer is wearing, nor can you spend your entire day at the gym, so the industry tells you to buy her lipstick for only $50 instead. Not knowing the truth, you either become really obsessed with fashion and try to fit a certain mold by spending all your time and money on the latest trends or you totally withdraw from it not giving your appearance or look a second thought.
Styling Your Fashion
So the industry hasn’t done a good job of fueling your self-esteem, only self-obsession or pity perhaps. But that doesn’t mean the fashion industry and trends should be completely ignored. It’s important to note that there’s a difference between fashion and STYLE. Fashion is about keeping up with the latest trends, celebrities and fads (what’s in and what’s out). Style, on the other hand, is how you let your clothes perceive who you are and how you feel about yourself. Style is taking bits and pieces from different places and creating your own identity. Self-identity doesn’t totally rely on attire, but clothes can certainly be an outward expression. Think about style as the ambassador of who you are to whoever meets you. It represents how you feel about yourself.
Giving a Style Uplift
Have you ever thought you could honor God with your style? God said that you are fearfully and wonderfully made (Psalm 139:14). But, He also said man looks at the outward appearance but God looks at the heart (1 Samuel 16:7). What does this mean for you and how you don fashion trends? God created you in His image. God is glorious and beautiful! Therefore, you are too! Sagging out of bed feeling bad for yourself or not caring about your appearance certainly doesn’t reflect God! But neither does constantly keeping up with trends. Where is the balance between self-love and self-obsession?
Style is how you let your clothes perceive who you are and how you feel about yourself.
You can and should experiment with trends because fashion is fun and, if done the right way, can really help improve self-confidence. Now is the time to explore different fashions because you’re still discovering who you are and who God made you to become. The balance is in knowing your body, personality and not taking things too seriously. Try on and experiment with trends to see which ones work. Find styles that complement your body type, and don’t feel like you need to stray from that style – even if it goes in and out of fashion. Be aware that your body is still changing, so what might look great on you today, might make you feel frustrated tomorrow. Don’t throw it out, but come back to it again and see if it works then. Find colors that accent your skin tone, hair and eye color. Wear clothes that you feel comfortable in because they coordinate with your personality, and always honor your Maker with what you wear.
It may be hard at first, but its worth it when you find the right outfit that makes you feel like the gem you are. It’s easy to become discouraged when something doesn’t look right on you. It’s okay, everything is not made for everyone. That’s why it’s so important for you to know your body type, begin to discover your personality and find colors that look good on you. All these elements help express your identity whether you’re bright and cheery, girly, edgy, what have you! It really makes a difference when you wear something that’s trendy and cute, fits right and makes you feel good. When your personality is reflected on the outside, your whole self radiates true beauty.
Fashion for Those With Confidence
Don’t pass off trying a fashion trend because you believe it won’t look right on you. If you like fashion, then don’t become lost in the idea that it isn’t necessarily for you. That’s a terrible way to view fashion. Although the industry doesn’t present fashion as being for everyone, it certainly is! Fashion is not just for the Jennifer Lawrences and Rihannas. But, you can take cues from them. Fashion is for those with confidence! Yes, Hollywood has tricks to make these women look like perfect tens, but part of the attraction is confidence. Do you think Rihanna would be rocking a huge puffy dress to the awards without some level of confidence? No! When you look good, you feel good, and no one can tell you otherwise. That confidence comes from the truth: God created you the way you are – unique and beautiful. There’s no one else in the world like you, so own it! Wear those heels sitting in the back of your closet, do you hair in a high pony, try on the floral dress you saw in the window that you were too intimidated to try on before.
Fashion is for those with confidence!
Don’t be afraid to have fun with trends. Style is only a fraction of who you are and who God created you to be, so model His beauty. As a worthy, intelligent, awesome creation you have so much to offer this world. So why not do it in a sequin top and sparkly heels – or black worker boots and flannel plaid – or a striped shirt and red lips – or nike sneakers and a cute zip-up hoodie – or whatever fits YOU?