In the 1940’s two extensive studies were done to find the average size person. Both studies measured about ten different parts of each individual’s body in the survey (wrist to shoulder, hip to ankle, neck circumference, thigh circumference, etc.) The studies combined all the measurements to determine the average male and female body. But, when they actually went to find the exact model of the average body, it couldn’t be found – at all. The majority of the individuals studied didn’t even match over half of the measurements. For example, a woman who was the average height and had the average arm length didn’t share the measurement for the average waist circumference, leg length and neck circumference. The conclusion is that there is no average person. Sure, there may be an average height, or an average weight, but the combination of these measurements may not necessarily produce an average person. An overall average female or male does not exist.
The problems with being average are many.
- ) We pursue a bodily form of perfection through unrealistic beauty standards.
- ) We actually follow unhealthy fitness goals for physical appeal.
- ) When we don’t reach the standards of being average, our emotional and mental wellbeing deteriorates.
- ) We believe we’re measured by certain spiritual standards, causing us to analyze our works and abilities rather than our relationship with the Lord.
- ) We don’t accept who we really are. We’re set on changing our identity to fit what we believe is “normal.”
Though this average doesn’t exist, the majority of us spend most of our day trying to fit in with the rest of the crowd. We strive to be average. Which means we’re striving for something that’s impossible to gain. The media tries to define what is average, retailers try to determine who is average, even our school, friends and parents tend to outline the average person. We’re surrounded by the idea that we sit somewhere along a spectrum of who’s average. We may convince ourselves that we’re smack dab in the middle of that spectrum, or we may push ourselves outside that imaginary spectrum, but either way, this spectrum should not take up space in our mind.
Rather than suggesting that people should strive harder to conform to an artificial ideal of normality, the director of one of the studies concluded that any system designed around the average person is doomed to fail. The world needs to open up to individuality, making room for distinct characteristics and beauty rather than expecting people to conform to nothing. We do not need to change to fit into something that is nonexistent; instead the environment around us needs to be altered so we feel free to be who we are.
As you journey through life, set being normal or average aside. There is no such thing. Stop attempting to be something that doesn’t exist. Instead, understand your own uniqueness, bask in your genuine beauty and let your whole self radiate! You are wonderful, you are mighty, you are better than average – in all aspects of life. Stop aiming for average and thrive as your honest self.
Seek out the woman God created you to be. Don’t deny who you are. Pursue your distinctive character and personality. Flourish in your individuality. Discover what makes you noteworthy and thank the Lord for that extraordinary quality. Remark on what makes you exceptional. God crafted you that way for a point and a purpose. Don’t deny God’s work. Enjoy it and love every aspect that makes you everything but ordinary.