Not everyone loves like you do, which is why The Five Love Languages by Chap Clark is so popular and informative. Use these short descriptions to help you better grasp your own language of love, as well as the languages of those you love. By understanding yourself and others better, you can develop a truer and stronger relationship.
Love Language Types
The love language of GIFTS
To you, gifts are physical, visible expressions of love. You feel loved when you’re given a gift as a demonstration of affection and you love people best by presenting them with presents that are meaningful. Significant gifts require thought, genuine care and special consideration for the other person.
Be careful to: Make sure you’re not giving out of obligation or with the intention to manipulate a person to get what you want.
The QUALITY TIME love language
Spending intentional, meaningful time with a loved one is important to you. Someone giving their time to connect with you is precious and you show love to others by pursuing them to spend time with you and having the chance to relate more intimately.
Be careful to: Don’t overwhelm your loved ones and push them to constantly spend meaningful time with you. Give others space when they may need it and don’t feel down if your loved ones need alone-time.
The WORDS OF AFFIRMATION love language
You feel most loved and wanted when someone speaks words of approval and affection to you. You express love to others with encouraging words and praise.
Be careful to: Avoid saying words that you don’t mean. Be kind and gentle, but stay true to who you are and keep away from insincerity.
The love language of PHYSICAL TOUCH
Hugs, kisses, back rubs, pats and physical closeness are signs of endearment to you, and you use these ways to reach out and build connections with others.
Be careful to: Take into consideration others’ boundaries. Many people feel uncomfortable around extremely affectionate individuals, so make sure you keep in mind your loved ones’ levels of comfort.
The ACTS OF SERVICE love language
When your friends and family help you in some way, you understand those actions as expressions of love. Devoting your time and energy to serving others is your way of conveying affection.
Be careful to: Always give and act out of love and with a sincere heart. You should never serve someone else simply to gain favor or reverence.
Different Love Languages
No matter what love language describes you best, remember that not everyone will share that expression of love, and exercising all the love languages will help you show your loved ones how much they mean to you. Start viewing your friends through a new lens, trying to pinpoint their love language and expressing your gratitude for them in that way. Also, when you’re feeling unloved by someone you truly care about, think about how they treat you and keep in mind that they may understand love differently than you. If you’re feeling awkward utilizing a love language different from your own, remember that sometimes being uncomfortable promotes growth and someday you may need all five love languages to show those you care about just how much you love them.
My Love Language
Take this short, and fun quiz to determine your love language. Then, receive a free download with a description of each love language to refer to time and time again.
